I’m turning twenty-two on December 9th (I really want a puppy by the way), and apparently I somehow missed the memo that this is the age where you get married. It seems like I constantly have people asking when I’m going to settle down or when I’m going to get engaged. My Facebook is bombarded with posts about my friends who are getting engaged or married.
This is the part where everyone is probably smirking and making remarks about how bitter I am. I’m not bitter at all, but I am exasperated. I am genuinely happy for every single person who gets engaged and/or married to the person they believe is who God sent for them. Here’s the thing, I haven’t had that person walk into my life…yet. So when someone has the audacity to ask me when I am planning on getting married, it is so frustrating. How in the world do they expect me to answer this? Would you like a time frame? I will be sure to get back to you when I know- except I probably won’t because you’re a jerk.
I know most of the people who are asking this are coming from a good place and only want to hear about how happy I am, but stop assuming that my happiness is dependent on having someone bring it into my life. I have so many other wonderful aspects of my life that make me happy. It would be a complete lie if I were to act as if I was unhappy just because I don’t have a diamond on my left hand. There are so many more aspects to a person’s life than being with someone else, and it is a slap in the face to assume that a person does not have a fulfilling life if they aren’t in a relationship.
I’m not going to be engaged by the time I graduate college; I won’t even be in a relationship. I’m okay with that. I came to college to get a degree in Political Science and English, not my MRS. I know that this makes me a social outcast in the South to not be concerned about finding my true love right now, but your twenties are when you find out who you are. Some people may find this out earlier than others, and I am finally accepting that I am one of those people that will be traveling my road alone for a while as I figure myself out. How can you know how to make someone else happy, if you don’t know what truly makes you happy in life? God knows I am not ready for a commitment as sacred as marriage; after all, He sees how much I change my mind about what I am going to wear each day. He knows what He is doing.
God places people in your life at the right time for YOU, not the right time for other people. God’s timing has been perfect with everything else in my life, so why would I not trust Him concerning this as well?
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